Networking Tips for Beginners: How to Do it Authentically
- fullifecoaching
- Dec 16, 2024
- 4 min read
Updated: Jun 18
Networking can be, well, awkward. Especially when you’re just starting to build your professional network.
Who do you reach out to? What do you say? How do you make your outreach feel authentic when you really, REALLY need a job?
Let me validate your instincts. Networking is awkward when you make it transactional.
When you treat someone as a means to an end, they can sense it from a mile away. People can tell when you’re approaching them solely for what they can offer you, and let’s be honest—no one likes that.
By the time your "hire me" message hits their ears (or their LinkedIn inbox), the real truth is you've put yourself three steps behind.
So let’s walk through those three steps together for my best networking tips for beginners.
Step 1: Reach out to the right people.
The first step is to ask yourself: If there weren't a job opening, would I still reach out to connect with this person?
You’ll find that, in this situation, your answer for connecting with most professionals is no, unless you’re applying for jobs in HR. Instead, reach out to the people doing the job you’d love to do, regardless of an open role.
Start with people who are already 1st or 2nd degree connections on LinkedIn. Beyond that, reach out to folks who graduated from your high school or university. You should have at least one shared connection with anyone you send a message to!
Step 2: Pretend there isn’t a job opportunity on the table.
On behalf of all hiring teams and managers (including my past and present self) we see your eagerness—and that’s not the problem!
In your initial outreach, resist the temptation to be transactional. Don’t mention the job you’re eyeing or ask for a recommendation. Think about it: You wouldn’t propose marriage on the first date, would you?
Connecting transactionally sounds like: “Hi there! I recently applied for the client manager position at your company, and I just wanted to let you know that I’m really excited about the opportunity and would love to chat!”
What’s wrong with this message? It focuses on the job opportunity instead of the person you’re reaching out to. It also doesn’t specify why you want to chat—or create a pathway for scheduling an actual conversation.
When you approach networking with the intent to build a relationship and genuinely learn from someone, the interaction feels authentic—and it is. By focusing on connection rather than immediate gain, you cultivate trust and authenticity.
The good news? Relationships are far more likely to lead to future opportunities, regardless of whether or not a job is available.
Step 3: Ask for advice, not an outcome.
So, how do you start an authentic professional relationship?
This is my best outreach trick: Express genuine interest in the person and their career journey (I call this the curiosity approach). Instead of reaching out about a specific position, reach out to learn something new.
Connecting with curiosity sounds like this:
“Hi there! “I see that you do [specific kind of work]. I’m considering a career in [specific kind of work] and would love to hear about your journey and get your advice for someone who wants to do what you’re doing. Would you be willing to set up a 15-minute call in the next two weeks to share your insights?”
This simple switch signals that you’re interested in learning from them, not just using them to get a job. It’s the difference between saying, “Please help me!!!!” and “I value your expertise.” It also has a direct question and call to action at the end, with a clear timeline. (This helps them know exactly what they’re agreeing to!)
Step 4: Come prepared with curious questions.
When you connect—whether that’s in person or over Zoom—treat the conversation as a learning opportunity. Have a short list of thoughtful questions ready.
Here are a few of my favorite questions to get you started:
What’s the most fulfilling part of your job?
What would you do if you were in my shoes and wanted to pursue a career like yours?
Who should I connect with to keep learning and expanding my network? Would you be open to making an introduction?
These questions not only demonstrate your curiosity but also allow the person to share insights that can help you. Even though you’re not asking about an open position, you’re building a relationship. This builds trust, which could lead to you being the first person they think of the next time there IS an opportunity!
Step 5: Dial down the urgency.
I know—when you’re unemployed or stuck in a toxic job, networking feels like a high-stakes game.
But here’s the truth: You’re more likely to land a job faster when you focus on building relationships rather than chasing immediate outcomes. Why? Because a paycheck is the result of forming a trusted relationship.
If you’re skeptical, try this experiment: Send a few transactional messages asking for a recommendation or directly inquiring about a job.
Then, send a few curiosity-based messages asking for 15 minutes to learn from someone’s experiences. Track your responses. I think you’ll find that the curiosity approach gets better results!
Here’s the bottom line: Be genuine.
Networking doesn’t have to feel high-pressure or inauthentic. When you approach it with genuine curiosity and a willingness to learn, you’ll find that people are more willing to help you—and those authentic connections will open doors in ways you never expected.
Remember, networking is about building trust, not just finding a job. And when there is a job on the table, you will find that this networking strategy leads to more interviews.
Yes, it’s a long game. But that’s exactly how you’ll score a job!
Ali Goodin
Ali is a certified career coach, former Disney cast member, and creative professional turned career transition expert based in Central Florida. Founder of Ful Life Coaching, Ali helps job seekers, career changers, and growth-minded professionals confidently navigate career transitions. Whether you're pursuing a new role, switching industries, or seeking greater purpose in your work, Ali provides personalized coaching, job search strategy, and resume support to help you build a fulfilling, balanced career at any stage of life.
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